Hank vs Mesh

Pricing

Both Hank and Mesh fall in the Free price range. Hank: Free to download and use. Mesh: Free to join; $5 cancellation fee after RSVP, $10/month for premium features.

Format & matching

Hank uses groups of Varies, compared to Mesh’s 4 per group, and Hank relies on interest-based matching while Mesh uses algorithm-based matching.

How they work

Hank: Download the app and create a profile. Browse a calendar of local activities — walks, coffee meetups, happy hours, museum visits, book clubs, and more — happening near you or online. Join anything that catches your eye. Before the event, you can see other attendees' profiles and start a conversation. After the activity, stay connected with people you clicked with through in-app messaging. If you don't see the right activity, create your own — set the time, place, and description, and Hank handles the rest.

Mesh: Sign up and enter your city. Every Wednesday, Mesh sends you a text with a time and a local coffee shop for Saturday at 10 AM. Tap 'yep' if you're in, 'nope' if you're not — no pressure either way. If you say yes, the app curates a group of four people in your age range. Saturday morning at 8 AM, you get the names and photos of the three people you're meeting. Show up at the coffee shop, grab a drink, and hang out. There are also Thursday evening events at breweries and user-hosted events around town.

What to love

Hank: Purpose-built for 55+ — no competing with twenty-somethings or navigating dating-app mechanics. Completely free with no subscription walls or premium tiers. Both in-person and online activities mean you can participate regardless of mobility. You can host your own events, not just join existing ones. Clean, simple interface designed for accessibility.

Mesh: Dead simple — no profiles, no swiping, no messaging, just show up at a coffee shop. Groups of four hit the sweet spot: small enough to actually talk, big enough to avoid awkward silences. Free to use with no subscription required to participate. Supports local coffee shops and cafes, which is a nice touch. Weekly cadence builds a habit without overwhelming your calendar.

Reality check

Hank: Currently strongest in the New York area — thinner activity selection in other regions. No Android app yet (planned but not launched). Smaller user base compared to mainstream apps means fewer activities in less populated areas. No algorithmic matching — you browse and choose activities yourself.

Mesh: Limited to a handful of midsize US cities — no major metros like NYC or LA yet. $5 cancellation fee after RSVP can feel punitive if plans change last minute. Cities need 500 signups before invites start, so you might wait a while in newer markets. No post-meetup features to stay connected with people you liked.

Søren's take

On Hank: Hank fills a gap that's been wide open for years: most friendship apps are designed for people in their 20s and 30s, and the 55+ crowd has been left to figure it out on their own. Hank's approach is refreshingly straightforward — here's a calendar of things to do, go do them with people your age. No personality quizzes, no swiping, no algorithms. The free pricing is a big deal for this demographic. The main limitation is geographic reach — it started in NYC and is still building out — but if you're 55+ and looking for community, this should be on your phone.

On Mesh: Mesh is refreshingly no-frills in a space that loves to overcomplicate things. The entire experience is: get a text, say yes, show up at a coffee shop with three strangers. That's it. The groups-of-four format is smart — it's small enough that everyone talks but big enough that you're not stuck in an awkward 1:1 if the vibe is off. The main limitation is geography: Mesh is still in a handful of midsize cities, and each one needs 500 signups before invites go out. If it's active in your area, though, it's one of the lowest-friction ways to meet people that exists.