Les Amis vs Mesh

Pricing

Both Les Amis and Mesh fall in the Free price range. Les Amis: Free to join; optional credit purchases for premium experiences. Mesh: Free to join; $5 cancellation fee after RSVP, $10/month for premium features.

Format & matching

Les Amis uses groups of Varies, compared to Mesh’s 4 per group, and Les Amis relies on interest-based matching while Mesh uses algorithm-based matching.

How they work

Les Amis: Download the app and create a profile — all users go through a verification process to keep the community women-only. Browse upcoming events in your city, from pottery classes and wine tastings to outdoor hikes and dinner parties. RSVP to anything that catches your eye. You can also join interest-based groups to find women who share your hobbies and start chatting before you ever meet in person. Show up to the event, meet your new people, and follow up through private messaging in the app.

Mesh: Sign up and enter your city. Every Wednesday, Mesh sends you a text with a time and a local coffee shop for Saturday at 10 AM. Tap 'yep' if you're in, 'nope' if you're not — no pressure either way. If you say yes, the app curates a group of four people in your age range. Saturday morning at 8 AM, you get the names and photos of the three people you're meeting. Show up at the coffee shop, grab a drink, and hang out. There are also Thursday evening events at breweries and user-hosted events around town.

What to love

Les Amis: Women-only space creates genuine comfort and safety. Curated offline events take the planning burden off you. Verified profiles mean less spam and more real people. Available across 12 cities in Europe and the US. Interest-based groups let you find your people before meeting IRL.

Mesh: Dead simple — no profiles, no swiping, no messaging, just show up at a coffee shop. Groups of four hit the sweet spot: small enough to actually talk, big enough to avoid awkward silences. Free to use with no subscription required to participate. Supports local coffee shops and cafes, which is a nice touch. Weekly cadence builds a habit without overwhelming your calendar.

Reality check

Les Amis: Women-only means you can't bring male friends or partners. Event availability varies heavily by city — Barcelona and Amsterdam have the most. Premium experiences cost extra credits on top of the free tier. Still relatively small community in newer cities like Austin and New York.

Mesh: Limited to a handful of midsize US cities — no major metros like NYC or LA yet. $5 cancellation fee after RSVP can feel punitive if plans change last minute. Cities need 500 signups before invites start, so you might wait a while in newer markets. No post-meetup features to stay connected with people you liked.

Søren's take

On Les Amis: Les Amis nails something most friendship apps get wrong: it leads with real events, not endless chat threads. The women-only angle isn't just a filter — it fundamentally changes the vibe. Women show up more open, more relaxed, and more willing to actually exchange numbers. The European city coverage is strong (Barcelona and Amsterdam especially), though the US expansion is still early. If you're a woman in one of their cities and you're tired of trying to make friends through dating app side features, Les Amis is the real deal.

On Mesh: Mesh is refreshingly no-frills in a space that loves to overcomplicate things. The entire experience is: get a text, say yes, show up at a coffee shop with three strangers. That's it. The groups-of-four format is smart — it's small enough that everyone talks but big enough that you're not stuck in an awkward 1:1 if the vibe is off. The main limitation is geography: Mesh is still in a handful of midsize cities, and each one needs 500 signups before invites go out. If it's active in your area, though, it's one of the lowest-friction ways to meet people that exists.