Butter vs Frnds of Frnds
Butter is a friendship app and Frnds of Frnds is a dating app. They take different approaches to helping you meet people IRL — here’s a detailed comparison.
Side-by-side comparison · Updated 2026
At a glance
Pricing
Both Butter and Frnds of Frnds fall in the Free price range. Butter: Free to use; you cover any activity costs. Frnds of Frnds: Free to use.
Format & matching
Butter uses groups of Varies, compared to Frnds of Frnds’s 1:1, and both use manual / self-select matching.
How they work
Butter: Download the app and create a profile. Browse plans others have posted — anything from dinner parties to run clubs to coffee catch-ups — or host your own by setting the activity, time, and location. When someone wants to join your plan, they send a request and you decide who to accept. Show up, do the thing, and meet people who are genuinely into the same stuff. After the plan, you can stay connected through the app or just show up to the next one.
Frnds of Frnds: Download the app and connect your contacts so it can map your social graph. Your friends — even ones in relationships — can create matchmaker profiles and recommend people they think you'd hit it off with. Every match you see is someone connected to your real social circle, not a random stranger. When both sides are interested, you match and can start chatting. The whole premise is 'don't talk to strangers' — your friends do the vetting for you.
What to love
Butter: You choose the activity, so every meetup is something you actually want to do. Host-picks-guests model means more intentional, higher-quality connections. Alcohol-free plans are a first-class option, not an afterthought. Free to use with no subscription paywall. Covers a wide range of activities beyond just dining.
Frnds of Frnds: Every match is vetted through your actual friend network. Friends can play matchmaker, which makes the whole thing more fun. Completely free — no paywalls or premium tiers. The trust factor is real — you're not meeting total strangers. Founded by college students who clearly understand their demo.
Reality check
Butter: Currently limited to Melbourne — most people can't use it yet. Only four screenshots on the listing, so the app experience is a bit opaque. Success depends heavily on local user density and active hosts. No algorithmic matching — you have to browse and self-select.
Frnds of Frnds: Requires a minimum number of contacts to start matching — barrier to entry. iOS only, no Android app available. Very new and small user base — your area might be empty. If your friends aren't on it, the whole concept falls apart.
Søren's take
On Butter: Butter is doing something refreshingly different: instead of matching you with strangers and hoping for the best, it lets you build plans and invite people into them. The host-selects-guests model gives you real agency, and the focus on alcohol-free and activity-based plans feels genuinely modern. The catch is that it's Melbourne-only for now, so unless you're there, you're on a waitlist. If you are in Melbourne and tired of apps that promise connection but deliver small talk, Butter is worth a serious look.
On Frnds of Frnds: Frnds of Frnds is solving a real problem: the best dates usually come from introductions, not algorithms. The mutual-friends concept is genuinely smart, and the fact that it's free is refreshing. But there's a chicken-and-egg problem — you need your friends on the app for it to work, and it requires a minimum number of contacts to even start. If you're a college student or in a city where it's catching on, it's worth trying. If you're the first person in your friend group to download it, you might be staring at an empty screen.
