Frnds of Frnds vs Met Through Friends

Pricing

Frnds of Frnds is priced at Free (Free to use), while Met Through Friends comes in at $$ (Ticketed events; pricing varies by event (sold via external ticketing)).

Format & matching

Frnds of Frnds uses groups of 1:1, compared to Met Through Friends’s 60+ per event, and both use manual / self-select matching.

How they work

Frnds of Frnds: Download the app and connect your contacts so it can map your social graph. Your friends — even ones in relationships — can create matchmaker profiles and recommend people they think you'd hit it off with. Every match you see is someone connected to your real social circle, not a random stranger. When both sides are interested, you match and can start chatting. The whole premise is 'don't talk to strangers' — your friends do the vetting for you.

Met Through Friends: Head to the Met Through Friends website and browse upcoming events in your city. Each event is a Plus-One Party — the catch is you have to bring a single friend of the orientation you're interested in dating. Buy tickets through their external ticketing platform and show up with your plus-one. The events are held at curated NYC and DC venues with facilitated social activities like backgammon nights and themed mixers. Because everyone was brought by a friend, there's built-in accountability and trust — no random strangers off a dating app.

What to love

Frnds of Frnds: Every match is vetted through your actual friend network. Friends can play matchmaker, which makes the whole thing more fun. Completely free — no paywalls or premium tiers. The trust factor is real — you're not meeting total strangers. Founded by college students who clearly understand their demo.

Met Through Friends: The bring-a-friend requirement creates built-in social accountability and trust. No app download required — just buy a ticket on the website and show up. Events are curated with real activities, not just standing around a bar. Gender and orientation inclusive, including dedicated Sapphic events. Founded by a certified dating coach who actually understands the NYC singles scene.

Reality check

Frnds of Frnds: Requires a minimum number of contacts to start matching — barrier to entry. iOS only, no Android app available. Very new and small user base — your area might be empty. If your friends aren't on it, the whole concept falls apart.

Met Through Friends: Currently limited to NYC and DC — not available in most cities. You need a single friend to bring, which is a real barrier if your friends are all coupled up. No matching algorithm — you're on your own once you're at the event. Ticket pricing and event details aren't always transparent on the website.

Søren's take

On Frnds of Frnds: Frnds of Frnds is solving a real problem: the best dates usually come from introductions, not algorithms. The mutual-friends concept is genuinely smart, and the fact that it's free is refreshing. But there's a chicken-and-egg problem — you need your friends on the app for it to work, and it requires a minimum number of contacts to even start. If you're a college student or in a city where it's catching on, it's worth trying. If you're the first person in your friend group to download it, you might be staring at an empty screen.

On Met Through Friends: Met Through Friends is built on the most time-tested dating strategy there is: getting set up through people you trust. The plus-one requirement is the secret sauce — it filters out randos and creates a room where everyone has at least one person vouching for them. The events themselves are well-produced with real activities beyond just drinking. The limitation is obvious: you need a single friend willing to come with you, and if you're not in NYC or DC, you're out of luck. But if you are, and you've got a wingman ready, this is one of the best alternatives to swiping.