Closer vs Met Through Friends

Pricing

Both Closer and Met Through Friends fall in the $$ price range. Closer: $20/month after 3-month free trial, plus $35 initiation fee. Met Through Friends: Ticketed events; pricing varies by event (sold via external ticketing).

Format & matching

Closer uses groups of Intentionally small groups, compared to Met Through Friends’s 60+ per event, and both use manual / self-select matching.

How they work

Closer: Head to becloser.co and create an account with your name, email, and phone number. Your first three months of membership are free — after that it's $20/month. Browse upcoming experiences in your city: dinners, drinks nights, live jazz, yoga and wine, home-cooked meals, or weekend getaways. Reserve a spot and show up solo. A facilitator guides the evening with conversation prompts designed for small groups, so you skip the surface-level small talk and get to real conversations fast. There's a $35 initiation fee at your first event.

Met Through Friends: Head to the Met Through Friends website and browse upcoming events in your city. Each event is a Plus-One Party — the catch is you have to bring a single friend of the orientation you're interested in dating. Buy tickets through their external ticketing platform and show up with your plus-one. The events are held at curated NYC and DC venues with facilitated social activities like backgammon nights and themed mixers. Because everyone was brought by a friend, there's built-in accountability and trust — no random strangers off a dating app.

What to love

Closer: No app download required — just sign up on the website. Three free months of membership to try it risk-free. Variety of experience types beyond just dinners — yoga, jazz, trips, home meals. Facilitated format means you skip awkward small talk and get to real conversation. Everyone comes solo, so there's no feeling of being the odd one out.

Met Through Friends: The bring-a-friend requirement creates built-in social accountability and trust. No app download required — just buy a ticket on the website and show up. Events are curated with real activities, not just standing around a bar. Gender and orientation inclusive, including dedicated Sapphic events. Founded by a certified dating coach who actually understands the NYC singles scene.

Reality check

Closer: Currently limited to 8 cities — mostly US, plus London, Toronto, Montreal, Sydney, Melbourne. $35 initiation fee at your first event on top of the monthly membership. No matching algorithm — who you meet is based on who else signed up for that event. Late cancellation ($10) and no-show ($20) fees can sting if plans change last minute.

Met Through Friends: Currently limited to NYC and DC — not available in most cities. You need a single friend to bring, which is a real barrier if your friends are all coupled up. No matching algorithm — you're on your own once you're at the event. Ticket pricing and event details aren't always transparent on the website.

Søren's take

On Closer: Closer sits in a sweet spot between a dinner club and a full-blown social platform. The facilitated format is the real differentiator — most social clubs just put people in a room and hope for the best, but Closer's prompts and small-group structure actually create the conditions for meaningful conversation. The three-month free trial is generous, and the event variety (not just dinners!) keeps things fresh. If you're in one of their cities and tired of forced networking energy, this is worth a try. Just be aware of the initiation fee — it's not huge, but it's an extra cost they don't highlight upfront.

On Met Through Friends: Met Through Friends is built on the most time-tested dating strategy there is: getting set up through people you trust. The plus-one requirement is the secret sauce — it filters out randos and creates a room where everyone has at least one person vouching for them. The events themselves are well-produced with real activities beyond just drinking. The limitation is obvious: you need a single friend willing to come with you, and if you're not in NYC or DC, you're out of luck. But if you are, and you've got a wingman ready, this is one of the best alternatives to swiping.