Butter vs WasMeant

Pricing

Butter is priced at Free (Free to use; you cover any activity costs), while WasMeant comes in at $$ (~$19 per dinner ticket + cost of your meal).

Format & matching

Butter uses groups of Varies, compared to WasMeant’s 4 per table, and Butter relies on manual / self-select matching while WasMeant uses algorithm-based matching.

How they work

Butter: Download the app and create a profile. Browse plans others have posted — anything from dinner parties to run clubs to coffee catch-ups — or host your own by setting the activity, time, and location. When someone wants to join your plan, they send a request and you decide who to accept. Show up, do the thing, and meet people who are genuinely into the same stuff. After the plan, you can stay connected through the app or just show up to the next one.

WasMeant: Head to wasmeant.com and create an account. You'll fill out a personality questionnaire covering your interests, values, and social energy — takes about 10 minutes. Once your profile is complete, purchase a one-time dinner ticket ($18.99). Then pick which Friday dates work for you and start the group search. WasMeant's algorithm builds a balanced group of four people with compatible personalities. You'll get the restaurant name and details by email once your group is confirmed — usually 24 hours before. Show up Friday at 7 PM, sit down, and spend the evening with three strangers at a curated spot in Manhattan, Brooklyn, or Williamsburg.

What to love

Butter: You choose the activity, so every meetup is something you actually want to do. Host-picks-guests model means more intentional, higher-quality connections. Alcohol-free plans are a first-class option, not an afterthought. Free to use with no subscription paywall. Covers a wide range of activities beyond just dining.

WasMeant: Algorithmic matching based on a real personality questionnaire — not random groupings. Small groups of four keep conversations intimate and comfortable. No app download required — sign up and manage everything on the website. Pay-per-dinner model with no subscription or auto-renewal. Restaurant selection is curated for atmosphere, not hype.

Reality check

Butter: Currently limited to Melbourne — most people can't use it yet. Only four screenshots on the listing, so the app experience is a bit opaque. Success depends heavily on local user density and active hosts. No algorithmic matching — you have to browse and self-select.

WasMeant: NYC only — if you're not in New York, you're out of luck. Friday-only schedule at 7 PM is rigid if your weekends are unpredictable. Ticket price covers coordination only — you still pay for your own meal and drinks. Relatively new platform, so the matching pool may be smaller than established competitors.

Søren's take

On Butter: Butter is doing something refreshingly different: instead of matching you with strangers and hoping for the best, it lets you build plans and invite people into them. The host-selects-guests model gives you real agency, and the focus on alcohol-free and activity-based plans feels genuinely modern. The catch is that it's Melbourne-only for now, so unless you're there, you're on a waitlist. If you are in Melbourne and tired of apps that promise connection but deliver small talk, Butter is worth a serious look.

On WasMeant: WasMeant feels like the scrappy, NYC-native answer to Timeleft. The premise is nearly identical — personality-matched dinners with strangers — but the execution is more intimate: groups of four instead of six, and a deliberate focus on one city done well rather than scaling everywhere at once. The Friday-at-7-PM ritual is a nice counterpoint to Timeleft's Wednesday format. The biggest limitation is obvious: it's NYC only. But if you live in New York and want a low-pressure way to meet genuinely interesting people over dinner, this is worth a ticket.