Frnds of Frnds vs Hank

Pricing

Both Frnds of Frnds and Hank fall in the Free price range. Frnds of Frnds: Free to use. Hank: Free to download and use.

Format & matching

Frnds of Frnds uses groups of 1:1, compared to Hank’s Varies, and Frnds of Frnds relies on manual / self-select matching while Hank uses interest-based matching.

How they work

Frnds of Frnds: Download the app and connect your contacts so it can map your social graph. Your friends — even ones in relationships — can create matchmaker profiles and recommend people they think you'd hit it off with. Every match you see is someone connected to your real social circle, not a random stranger. When both sides are interested, you match and can start chatting. The whole premise is 'don't talk to strangers' — your friends do the vetting for you.

Hank: Download the app and create a profile. Browse a calendar of local activities — walks, coffee meetups, happy hours, museum visits, book clubs, and more — happening near you or online. Join anything that catches your eye. Before the event, you can see other attendees' profiles and start a conversation. After the activity, stay connected with people you clicked with through in-app messaging. If you don't see the right activity, create your own — set the time, place, and description, and Hank handles the rest.

What to love

Frnds of Frnds: Every match is vetted through your actual friend network. Friends can play matchmaker, which makes the whole thing more fun. Completely free — no paywalls or premium tiers. The trust factor is real — you're not meeting total strangers. Founded by college students who clearly understand their demo.

Hank: Purpose-built for 55+ — no competing with twenty-somethings or navigating dating-app mechanics. Completely free with no subscription walls or premium tiers. Both in-person and online activities mean you can participate regardless of mobility. You can host your own events, not just join existing ones. Clean, simple interface designed for accessibility.

Reality check

Frnds of Frnds: Requires a minimum number of contacts to start matching — barrier to entry. iOS only, no Android app available. Very new and small user base — your area might be empty. If your friends aren't on it, the whole concept falls apart.

Hank: Currently strongest in the New York area — thinner activity selection in other regions. No Android app yet (planned but not launched). Smaller user base compared to mainstream apps means fewer activities in less populated areas. No algorithmic matching — you browse and choose activities yourself.

Søren's take

On Frnds of Frnds: Frnds of Frnds is solving a real problem: the best dates usually come from introductions, not algorithms. The mutual-friends concept is genuinely smart, and the fact that it's free is refreshing. But there's a chicken-and-egg problem — you need your friends on the app for it to work, and it requires a minimum number of contacts to even start. If you're a college student or in a city where it's catching on, it's worth trying. If you're the first person in your friend group to download it, you might be staring at an empty screen.

On Hank: Hank fills a gap that's been wide open for years: most friendship apps are designed for people in their 20s and 30s, and the 55+ crowd has been left to figure it out on their own. Hank's approach is refreshingly straightforward — here's a calendar of things to do, go do them with people your age. No personality quizzes, no swiping, no algorithms. The free pricing is a big deal for this demographic. The main limitation is geographic reach — it started in NYC and is still building out — but if you're 55+ and looking for community, this should be on your phone.