Better Off vs Met Through Friends

Pricing

Better Off is priced at Free (Free to join; individual experiences vary in cost (some free, others paid)), while Met Through Friends comes in at $$ (Ticketed events; pricing varies by event (sold via external ticketing)).

Format & matching

Better Off uses groups of Varies, compared to Met Through Friends’s 60+ per event, and Better Off relies on algorithm-based matching while Met Through Friends uses manual / self-select matching.

How they work

Better Off: Download the app and create a free account. Take a quick personality quiz that covers your interests, social style, and what kind of experiences you're into. Browse upcoming experiences in your city — brunches, run clubs, trivia nights, ski weekends, sushi-making classes, museum happy hours, you name it. Register for one, and Better Off's AI matching system assembles a group of people who fit your personality and preferences. You'll get the details before the event. Show up, hang out with your group, and stick around for the after-bar to meet everyone else.

Met Through Friends: Head to the Met Through Friends website and browse upcoming events in your city. Each event is a Plus-One Party — the catch is you have to bring a single friend of the orientation you're interested in dating. Buy tickets through their external ticketing platform and show up with your plus-one. The events are held at curated NYC and DC venues with facilitated social activities like backgammon nights and themed mixers. Because everyone was brought by a friend, there's built-in accountability and trust — no random strangers off a dating app.

What to love

Better Off: AI-powered matching goes beyond basic interests — uses neural networks similar to TikTok's recommendation engine. Massive variety of experiences from casual brunches to multi-day ski trips. Works for solo joiners and existing friend groups alike. Available in 10+ US cities with both iOS and Android apps. Free to create an account and browse — you only pay for individual experiences.

Met Through Friends: The bring-a-friend requirement creates built-in social accountability and trust. No app download required — just buy a ticket on the website and show up. Events are curated with real activities, not just standing around a bar. Gender and orientation inclusive, including dedicated Sapphic events. Founded by a certified dating coach who actually understands the NYC singles scene.

Reality check

Better Off: Experience costs vary widely and aren't always transparent upfront. Quality depends on what organizers are running in your city — some markets are thinner than others. The AI matching is a black box — you can't see exactly why you were grouped with certain people. No structured post-event community or follow-up features to maintain connections.

Met Through Friends: Currently limited to NYC and DC — not available in most cities. You need a single friend to bring, which is a real barrier if your friends are all coupled up. No matching algorithm — you're on your own once you're at the event. Ticket pricing and event details aren't always transparent on the website.

Søren's take

On Better Off: Better Off sits in an interesting sweet spot between a social matching app and an event marketplace. The AI matching is the real differentiator — instead of just showing you a list of events and letting you figure it out, they're actually assembling groups of compatible people for each experience. The variety is impressive too: this isn't just another dinner-with-strangers app. The downside is that experience quality and availability depend heavily on your city. If you're in NYC or LA, you'll have plenty of options. Smaller markets might feel sparse. Worth trying if you're the kind of person who'd rather bond over an activity than sit across from a stranger at a bar.

On Met Through Friends: Met Through Friends is built on the most time-tested dating strategy there is: getting set up through people you trust. The plus-one requirement is the secret sauce — it filters out randos and creates a room where everyone has at least one person vouching for them. The events themselves are well-produced with real activities beyond just drinking. The limitation is obvious: you need a single friend willing to come with you, and if you're not in NYC or DC, you're out of luck. But if you are, and you've got a wingman ready, this is one of the best alternatives to swiping.